Wusses

copied from Will Woon's post on facebook

No doubt that Christian men are called to be leaders. But are they exercising their leadership or are they simply riding the wave and taking it easy?

Let me put it out there that our CCC men are generally taking it easy and in some situations cowardly and wussy in exercising their leadership. I must admit that I have been guilty of this.

Let me explain.What about the courage to take up ministry positions despite the busy-ness of work/life? How come the same few faces are often seen helping out? Why is CCC, or any church for that matter, struggling to get leaders to help out?

Where are the men in children's ministry?? Is it just a domain for the women or are men going to take up their role as leaders also in teaching??

These days children face having no meaningful Christian male leadership outside of their home. And even at home some may not even have good Christian role modelling from their father who might not be a strong Christian himself.

Are men actively encouraging our sisters to grow? As men, it's even more important that we lead by example by growing ourselves as well as encouraging our sisters to grow. How often have we men let our own Christian life slip and grow stagnant? And yet we're happy to go to church and serve in our ministries but we're struggling to open our bible. I'm guilty of that too.

What about men taking a lead in their relationships?? I don't mean having prayer and bible studies with their gf/wife ... although that's important. Are they even doing that?? What I mean is an active hand in taking a lead in resolving any relationship issues by asking a pastor or a Christian brother for help & counselling.

This is based on a pastor's observation that whenever he's approached about relationship problems, it's invariably the women coming to him and not the men. Does that mean the men see no problems while women do?? Or are they too wussy to seek help?

And what about the famous fragile egos of men? Are we so worried about being hurt and rejected that we prefer to play it safe and skirt around the issue when it comes to the person we are interested in? I'm not saying guys let's all go forth and express our intentions en masse to our Christian sisters. But are we so fragile that we can't handle setbacks or rejections??

These are but some topics for discussion. I invite you to discuss about the idea of a Christian men with Courage. Your discussions could lay the foundation for the upcoming Men's Dinner in Oct 3 on Men at War: (HOLY) COURAGE.

Q: Where do you think men are falling down on as Christian leaders?
Q: What's some things that would take courage for a Christian man to do?

I'll chip in:

* it takes courage to teach children
* it takes courage to do the unglamourous jobs such as cleaning, washing, packing up rubbish
* it takes courage to do housework as we hate doing them
* it takes courage to volunteer when no one's willing to do so
* it takes courage NOT to conform to the masses
* it takes courage to tell a manager that every [insert your night] is your bible study and you can't stay late to work
* it takes courage to go to housegroup despite ...
* it takes courage to not be late for church service Feel free to discuss